Have you ever heard that quote? "The best revenge is a life well lived"? It really makes sense to me, but I see too many people going the complete opposite direction. Not sure if it is just me, but I have been noticing more and more people who get hurt and then take it out on themselves. Whether it is a spouse, a family member, an employer, etc... they get hurt and it leads to self defeating behaviors and an overall negative attitude about life. They take solace in food, alcohol, solitude, anger,  and many other things. They let themselves go completely. Is that you? If you have gained more weight than you ever thought you would, what happened? Look back. Do you remember a turning point? Find that hurt and use it as fuel for success, rather than an anchor to hold you back. Don't let that person continue to win! The best way to get back at the person that hurt you is to forget them. You're worth the effort, so work on you and forget that hurt. Revenge is a dish best served by a buff person.