One of the strongest predictors of happiness is based on what kind of mindset you have. A scarcity mindset or an abundance mindset. This is mainly something that is used in the business world for entrepreneurs to predict whether they will be happy or not.
People who have scarcity mindsets, never think anything is enough. They are constantly worries about what other people are doing. These are the "keeping up with the Jones'" type. They don't typically help others because that might help someone get ahead of them! These are what the kids call haters.
People with an abundance mind set, focus on themselves. They will help others any time they can, they focus on doing the best at what they are doing, and they know that there is enough to go around. Doesn't matter what, there is already enough.
When I first started in my business, I definitely had a scarcity mindset. I was worried about what the competition was doing. Worried about trainers stealing my clients. I was always reactive, rather than proactive. Looking at what the competition was doing and thinking about how I could do the same.
Things started to turn around for me when I realized there are plenty of clients for everybody. My business has taken off since I started focusing on being the best at what I can do, not better than what others are doing. I help other fitness professionals as much as I can, even my direct competition. I refer my own clients to other trainers, classes, gyms, etc... I want what's best for my clients, even if it isn't with my business.
I DO NOT care what other people are doing, because I am confident that nobody can match what we do. It's not bragging if you can back it up right 😉
I'm telling you all of this, to ask you one main question. Which mind set are you when it comes to your body?
Are you constantly wishing you had someone else's body? Or are you focusing on improving your own body?
Do you constantly think about how easy other people have it and how hard you have it? Or do think about how you can maximize your strengths?
Do you help a friend who is struggling with a weight problem? Or do you ignore them because you don't want them looking better than you?
Do you get jealous when a friend loses a lot of weight? Or are you happy for them and use it as inspiration?
Really think about how you react to situations like these and decide what type of mind set you have. You have everything you need right now to achieve whatever weight loss and fitness goals you want to. Stop wasting energy on things that are out of your control, channel that energy into doing you best, and you will be amazed at what you can do.